Since the election I have been reflecting on what it must be like to very suddenly and publicly lose your job and role. How do you ‘pull yourself together’ and successfully manage your way through such a ‘sudden’ and ‘disruptive’ change?
So in no particular order, here are some of my thoughts:
Note your feelings– in the immediate aftermath, don’t rely on your feelings to make any major decisions or rush you into action. They are likely to take you on a bit of a roller coaster. Allow yourself the time you need to respond not just react.
Know your friends – be realistic and appreciative of your real friends and supporters. This is the time when you will learn who your real friends are. Prepare to be surprised, sometimes pleasantly, sometimes not quite so
Support – seek out the people who you know will be there for you, ‘no matter what’, regardless of your status, role or position. Most likely these are the same people who were there when you weren’t riding so high and are probably ready and waiting to offer you support.
Acceptance – find a way of looking the situation in the eye and facing the current reality. Remaining in a prolonged state of denial is unlikely to help you in the long term. Even if it does feel easier to simply to ‘stick your head in the sand’, until it all goes away.
Take your time – when you are in a place where you can reflect take the opportunity to review your time, the highs and lows, the achievements and the lessons learnt. Consider what you can or perhaps need to ‘let go of’ as well as those things you might choose hold onto to or to take on.
Accept what you were responsible for, ‘the good, the bad and the ugly’ and decide to learn the lessons and then move on.
You are greater than the ‘sum of your parts’– Remember who you are, we are all greater than the jobs, and roles we have. Now might be time to review how much of your self- identity is tied, invested in your job?
Be grateful – use breathing exercises to help you become more mindful of what you already have, what you can be grateful for even in the smallest moments.
Look after yourself– if you haven’t already been doing this, now especially is the time to start looking after yourself, in all the different ways you possibly can, physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically.
Find a mentor – look at how others have managed a successful transition, Seek out and talk with the people that have been where you are, and managed a successful transition.
Get through it – make the conscious decision that you will get through with grace, style and humility. At this stage don’t worry about the how, just decide on the outcome you want. If you allow yourself to get ‘bogged’ down in the how at too early a stage you are likely to tie you yourself up with worry and anxiety when you can’t clearly see all that might need to be done.
If you focus on your attitude first, the rest will come, in other words, ‘sort your head out first’.
Establish a basis of faith in yourself first. If it helps find a phrase, quote, piece of scripture, picture anything that will help to anchor you when you start to feel overwhelm.
You just need to find something that will help anchor you for the coming days, weeks and months.
I am sure there is a whole lot more, but that’s all I can think of for the moment.