What keeps you going when times are tough and work isn’t going so well or it just feels like you are ‘wading through treacle’? Your progress seems inordinately slow and you might even wonder if you are in fact moving backward.
I know for me, there is a certain stubbornness in my nature, (I don’t always want to admit I might be on the wrong track).
There is a certain level of ‘grit’, in my makeup and I also know that there are times when I need to get my head down, put the work in and just keep going.
Sometimes the break through comes at the moment you least expect it, the ‘darkest hour is just before the dawn’- Thomas Fuller.
How many people have given up just at the point they were about to reach their ‘breakthrough’?
So, how might you be able to encourage and support yourself when times are tough?
Well it might not hurt to:
Check your perspective, are you really making so little headway? How realistic are your plans and expectations, are you hoping for too much too soon? Or are you in fact playing too small, I do seriously wonder whether it is easier to just go for the ‘humongous’ dreams.
It may be that your vision or your dream is simply not big enough. Take a look at an earlier post, ‘Making sure your dreams are big enough’ post here
Check in with your values, is what you are trying to do in alignment with who you are and the things you really stand for? A lack of progress might well be a big clue to this, you may well have propped your career ladder up against the wrong wall. It just might not be the right thing for you.
Check your timing, so much of life I think is about timing and serendipity. Perhaps there is some additional learning and training that you need to undertake first. You may well be stretching yourself too thinly and not giving your project the energy and focus it really needs.
Check your pathway, is it time to adjust your approach? This might be when you need to ‘Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach’ – Tony Robbins
Check your process, similar in some ways to the point above, but if you know you have the right elements in place then ‘let go of the outcome’ and focus on the doing. Sometimes this is the only way to proceed, just keep going and trust that the process you are following is right for you.
Check your destination, is it still where you want to go? Maybe somewhere along the way you have simply changed your mind, but possibly not quite acknowledged it.
Check your self-talk, what are you saying to yourself about your progress or lack of? Would you allow someone else to talk to you like that?
So, whether you are:
- On the hunt for a different job
- In pursuit of your first role
- Making a complete change of role, career
- Looking for that first break
- Waiting for that first piece of work as a new business owner
- Chasing your dream
It is worth remembering that sometimes, life is a bit of a marathon, for some situations there are no quick fixes, no sprints to the finish.
Be kind to yourself and accept that you are most likely doing the best you can.
Until next time
PS if you have time and enjoy singing take a look at one of our songs from Brighton Goes Gospel, our version of the Mary, Mary song I can’t give up now.
Hope you enjoy