What do you do when times are tough? Perhaps work is not going well, or it just feels like you are ‘wading through treacle’? Progress feels inordinately slow, and you wonder if you are moving backwards.
I know for me, there is a stubborn streak in my nature, (I do not always want to admit I might be on the wrong track). There is a certain level of ‘grit’, in my makeup, which helps me when needed to get my head down, put the work in and keep going.
Sometimes the breakthroughs come at the moments you least expect them, the ‘darkest hour is just before the dawn’- Thomas Fuller. How many people, I wonder give up just at the point they are about to make their ‘breakthrough’?
So, my question for you today is what can; you do to encourage and support yourself when times are tough?
Well, it might help to look at my checklist:
Check your perspective, are you really making so little headway? How realistic are your plans and expectations? Are you hoping for too much too soon? Or are you playing too small? Sometimes it is easier to go for the ‘bigger’ dreams.
It may be that your vision or your dream is simply not big enough. Take a look at an earlier post here https://careerresilience.wordpress.com/2016/06/23/making-sure-your-dreams-are-big-enough/
Check-in with your values, is what you are trying to do in alignment with who you are and the things you stand for? A lack of progress might well be a big clue to this; you may well have propped your career ladder up against the wrong wall. It just might not be the right thing for you.
Check your timing, so much of life I think is about timing and luck. Perhaps there is some additional learning and training that you need to undertake first. You may well be stretching yourself too thinly and not giving your project the energy and focus it needs.
Check your pathway, is it time to adjust your approach? It might be better to, ‘stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach’ – Tony Robbins
Check your process, similar in some ways to the point above, but if you know you have the right elements in place then ‘let go of the outcome‘ and focus on the doing. Sometimes this is the only way to proceed, keep going and trust that the process you are following is right for you.
Check your destination, is it still where you want to go?
Check your self-talk, what are you saying to yourself about your seeming lack of progress? Would you allow anyone else to talk to you like that?
So, whether you are:
Making a change of career
On the hunt for a new job
In pursuit of your first role
Looking for that first break
Hustling for that first piece of work as a new business owner
Chasing your dream
It is worth remembering that for the moment and for the foreseeable future, life is a bit of a marathon, no quick fixes, no sprints to the finish.
Be kind to yourself and accept that you are most likely doing the best you can.
Until next time