Find out who else is in the room.
Rather than going in completely cold – do a little background research about the others at the table. What are they saying about themselves in the public space? It is easy enough these days to learn about people via LinkedIn, Twitter, etc. Who could you talk to learn more about their backgrounds, how they approach things, and their journeys?
While at it, why not reach out to them directly—break the ice by setting up informal chats and starting a conversation? Being curious and empathetic could be particularly helpful, as these traits will help you stay open to seeing how these relationships develop, almost like having a blank canvas.
Be open to seeing and learning what your new colleagues are like rather than making assumptions.
Prepare for the change.
Consider the challenges you might face initially– are there things you can head off with some anticipation and planning?
What aggressions—micro or otherwise might you face as you step into this new role? Constant interruptions, not having your ideas taken seriously because you are the only woman, comments about how well you speak as someone from the Global Majority, being talked down to because of your disability, or perhaps all the above. You may face multiple and layered aggressions because of your situation. So, looking after yourself and having somewhere safe to discuss your challenges is essential.
Think about who can support you – especially in the early days. Build a network of trusted confidantes who will have your back. As issues and challenges emerge, you may need a sounding board of people with similar backgrounds.
It is also possible that in your previous role, you met or even delivered work for some of the people in the room, and here, I think it is helpful to recognise that things will be different now you are in a new position. People may react and respond unexpectedly if you are now in a more senior role. Some people may need time to adjust because you are now a senior staff member. Not everyone will necessarily respond or react favourably to you as a leader.
This might be where you need to take full ownership of your promotion and find a way to fully embody this new position. If you need help with this, consider getting support from a mentor or executive coach.
Seek first to learn and understand.
Take the time you need to observe and learn. There may well be obvious improvements you can make, and it is often easier to see these with the benefit of a fresh pair of eyes – but part of being successful is bringing people with you. It is all about building connections and sustainable relationships so you can move forward.
Think about your brand and reputation. What do you want people to say about you when you are not in the room? How do you want them to weigh your words?
A thoughtful approach will likely stand you in better stead than becoming known as the person who sweeps in and changes everything before them, like a typhoon or bull in a china shop.
Allow yourself the space, time, and grace to grow fully into the role – no one, and I mean no one, is ever 100% ready to hit the ground running.
Be your Truest work self – I heard this phrase from guest speaker Geoffrey Williams; you can find out more about him here.
But his assertion struck a chord with me: consider carefully what you want to share with your new colleagues in the public space and what will remain private.
You will only have one opportunity to create that first impression – so take ownership of your story in the room. What will you choose to share to share in the room, at least at the start? What details might be appropriate and helpful to bring from the hidden into the open arena, as in Johari’s Window? For the Beckham fans among you, I was intrigued to learn that he keeps bees and that the opening shot of his Netflix documentary showed him fully suited up and collecting honey.
If you are on social media, consider what you want to remain in the public domain. Your employer and colleagues are likely to check your profiles. Is what is publicly out there in line with your new role? What would you prefer to keep private or only available to close friends and family?
Remember your worth and your value.
Remind yourself that you have earned your place at the table – because why else would you have been promoted?
You are here because you have something to offer, you have delivered in the past, and you will do so again – because, again, why else would you have been promoted? And remember, your diverse background will likely provide you with a unique perspective and insight that others don’t have. Be proud of what it enables you to bring to the organisation.
Remind yourself why you are a good fit for this position – the skills, attributes and experience that make you suitable. If it helps create an affirmation to anchor yourself, ‘I have earned this position and can make this a success.’
If you struggle with Imposter Syndrome, this article – Imposter Syndrome 8 Ways to deal with it before it hinders your success, might help. I particularly like the reminder that you are not alone with it.
In his article, You need to know the 7 types of power if you want to succeed, Mark Murphy describes Information and Expert Power as the best power sources in this day and age. Identify and recognise the power you already have, and then consider how you can wield it in the wisest way possible.
SWOT analysis is brilliant for digging deep into a specific situation. Which of your strengths are most useful/relevant in this role? How might they support your success? What external opportunities does this promotion offer, and how can you maximise them? Equally, consider any external threats and how you might counter them.
You can read more here to remind yourself of your strengths and how you might use them to exploit opportunities and mitigate your weaknesses or challenges.
Create a plan.
Consider what success means to you. Create a plan so you know what you need to learn and observe and who to connect with in the first 30 days, 60 days, and 90 days. Pace yourself – ensure your plan allows you to work at a pace where you can look after yourself, and if that is not always possible – build in as much recovery time as possible. Work in sprints rather than marathons – something advocated in The Way We’re Working isn’t Working by Tony Schwartz, Jean Gomes and Catherine McCarthy, Ph.D.
Build those connections.
Invest time in building mutually beneficial alliances. Make connections a crucial part of your plan and find ways to sustain those relationships.
Consider the people who will have your back—those willing to provide support at the drop of a hat. The people you trust to act as a sounding board and offer a sympathetic ear when needed. The people you trust to listen without judgment while you get things off your chest and then to lovingly tell you the truth.
Remember your values.
Review how your success will align with your values and beliefs. What do you want to achieve in this new role? Why did you say yes?
Think about the impact you want to have. Go back to your why, your vision, and why you said yes to this promotion. Why does it matter to you? How does it align with your values?
Track your progress and consider journaling as part of your wellness routine. Getting your thoughts down on paper regularly is incredibly helpful.
Remember to look after yourself – physically, emotionally, and psychologically because the aim isn’t just survival but thriving.
And finally, a word from someone else.
In preparation for this article, I asked a family member who for many years was the only NED director from her background on an NHS board for her top tips on how to survive and thrive when you are the only one from your background. These are her words:
‘Read the papers and don’t assume others have. Hold your boundaries regarding the time you have available, and know that’ll still be more than you realise. And if you have a functioning board, they should be able to take constructive scrutiny and pick your battles. Don’t assume someone else will notice what you have; try to speak up as appropriate. Keep good oversight, an eye on the bigger picture, and keep coming back to that; if there isn’t a reason for doing something that adds value, why is it being done? Kindness, civility, and persistence go a long way.
Hold your colour, and don’t pretend it’s not there. You’re an acting board member who’s black, but not to forget others may have hidden characteristics and experiences that may align more than you might first think.
I believe you’re there to represent a wide variety of people but not the representative of all black people and minorities. You may well bring a different perspective, and that’s a joy, and don’t be afraid to share as appropriate.’
One last word from me: it may seem strange to include, but as important as remembering why you said yes – I think it is helpful to consider why you would say no. As the only one in the room – you are not a miracle worker; you are not there to tick a box but to deliver a piece of work that aligns with who you are and the values you live by. If there comes a point when this is not possible, it might be time to walk away.
Janice Taylor